we are still having fun and he's still the one

Shawn and i will be together 14 years on january 29th. it is pure craziness. sometimes i still feel like we are 16 and on our first date, then i remember i'm almost 30 and we are about to have our 4th babe. 

i debated on doing a blog all about our high school love story, but i remembered i did that last year, you can read it by clicking here.

we are still having fun and he is still the one.

we REALLY are still having fun. we actually spend time together.

he is still the one and that is because we actually talk to each other.

i know i've said before we had a rocky 3 months where he'd come home from work, i'd pass the kids off on him so i could maybe get 5 minutes to myself, then i'd come back downstairs irritated that he didn't take out the trash..... i mean can men not really see the trash overflowing? {wink}...... one night we sat down and had the "i feel like we are roommates " talk. probably a convo LOTS of people have....A LOT of times. what was different about this talk? we actually made changes. we didn't just talk about it, we acted on it. even when we didn't feel like it.

 i was talking to a friend about what marriage is all about and it really is all about giving...100% of the time. even when you had a bad day at work, even when you have sleepless nights and are up with your baby, even when you think that he should of done this.....or she should of done that....even when you are "pms'ing" and so moody "because it's that time of the month"....{yes, i just went there}. if i feel myself getting upset about something i literally have to think to myself "don't be a biatch" {sorry for saying that word mom, haha}

 give 100% all of the time, give all of your kindness, give all of your patience, give all of your love, give all of yourself.... Even when we feel like the other person has stopped giving their 100%. yes, that is hard at times but no one ever said that marriage isn't work. if you didn't show up for work some days, there would be some serious problems. same goes for your marriage. We work hard on this everyday. 

ok, on a happy note,  happy "dating" anniversary to my sweet husband. thank you for being so selfless and giving of your self 100% of the time, you make life fun and i am still over the moon in love with you. thank you for making me a priority in your life.

i'm still having fun, and you are still the one....even after all these years....and four kids later....and even after you take out the trash but never put a liner in... haha 

xoxox 

this was our 1 year "dating" anniversary

p.s shawn- sorry if i'm cranky the next few weeks from getting no sleep from YOUR baby. haha

here is a little video i made: i'm not the most computer savvy and couldn't figure out how to get the song "we are still having fun, and you are still the one" :)

http://animoto.com/play/lmZbnNieLnnt2nCLpHiqog

SUPERMOM

what is a super mom?

 my first thought is a mom who wakes up at 5 am to go work out, then comes home to shower, does her make-up, makes her bed, and then starts to wake up her kids with the fresh aroma of cinnamon rolls in the oven...can't forget about something healthy...maybe some fresh juiced oranges, apples, carrots and kale. she then dresses her kids in the cutest clothes, perfectly matching, and gets in her spotless SUV to drive them to school 5 minutes early each day..... when she gets home she scrubs the floor while the younger kids entertain themselves and she throws in loads of laundry through the day so that her pile of laundry is never more than a tiny bit...... i could go on and on but who really wants to hear about all that?!? not me...because it's not a reality for me.

i hear the word supermom so much and find myself calling other moms that often! i think every mom is supermom in her own way....maybe you can accomplish the above paragraph, and kudos to you! but not every mom can be like that. maybe this whole post is just about making me feel better {wink}

this is my reality...

 i sleep until 5 minutes before i have to wake up the kids {most times because i am up in the night with a kid}, i drag my booty outta bed and glance in the mirror at my crazy bedhead and think, i'll do my hair later....i throw on whatever fits and what is comfy {esp being 9 months preggo right now} then i go into the boys room and say good morning guys, let's get up on time so we have time for breakfast, i pick out carter's clothes, and let hunter pick out his own most days, we head down stairs to watch some toons and the babe soon wakes up, i get her outta the crib, change her, get her a bottle, pack a lunch {which i know could be way more healthy some days} look at the clock and start the count down.... we have to leave in 5 minutes, get your shoes guys...oh ya...breakfast,  here is some dry cereal in a bag or a granola bar kids, lol, come on guys, get in the car so we aren't late...wait...where is your coat? you cant find it? ugh...i run through the house looking like a mad woman {BTW, i do have to say i have never dropped hunter off late at school, yay me}i drop hunt off at school, come home and play with the kids, catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror and remember i forgot to do my hair...i end up fluffing it a bit or throwing it a bun , i get the kids a snack and plop down on the floor with my cold cup of coffee thinking about how my laundry is a mile hilgh in the basement, we might play a game in between changing Capri's diapers, and making lunch....my lunch dishes may sit until the babe goes down for a nap....i might get them done, and get to pee in peace, read a book to carter then capri is up again. we play and play some more while i think of my long to do list...some days i will get it all done in an hour but some days i will just play with the kids all day....  and think "why cant i be super mom and do it all?"

ok, so that isn't all days! but that is half of them !!! some days i feel like i have my supermom moments,when i get up an hour early to shower and make the kids cute mickey mouse pancakes..... start dinner in the crock pot and pack the perfectly balanced lunch! when i have those days...i usually share it with the world...because it rarely happens! as much as id like my days to go "perfect," they don't! but that's the mom-life! 

i remember building this snowman with the boys and thinking "this is the worst snowman ever" but now i look back and think "the boys loved it! and although it was hideous, at least their mama was outside building it with them"

as i look at this pic, i could see two things....

one of those days i didn't do my make-up and stayed in my robe, or as a whole day i loved on my sweet kids

this day i felt like a huge preggo in a bathing suit. it pretty much gave me wedgie because it was so small, {haha, that's the truth} but i got in my bathing suit and took my babes swimming,with my "not so perfect gym body"

the irresponsible mom that didn't get my kid in bed on a timely manner for school the next day

 or

 the mom that "broke the rules" for a fun memory?

the mom that lets her "kids take over the house" and shouldn't 

 or 

the mom that teaches her kids, {who now will probably tell their kids} how to tell if pasta is really done.....only one way, to throw it on the wall and see if it sticks :)

the mom who was up all night with a babe and who "let herself go" and went in public like this

 or

 the mom who didn't let her not having make-up on stop her from taking her kids somewhere fun {disclaimer...dear Lord, i sure hope i did something with my hair that day}

the mom who is making excuses why her house is a mess

 or 

a mom who didn't feel like getting a thing done that day?

...ok, that would be both.

ok, give me credit, my preggo self took all the kids to the grocery store...haha....supermom status! :)

the mom who held it together on vacation, while she had no time to do her hair, her babe wouldn't keep a bow on, and i was too rushed to pick her out a cute outfit, hunter was not happy
{no nap that day} and carter literally pee'd all over his pants at the restaurant and had to sit in his undies and socks because he soaked his shoes too! whew! at least my hubby looks cute and i'm still smiling! :)

its all about perspective!

just remember the days you feel like nothing has gotten done...at the end of the day if you love your kids the best you can, that's what makes you supermom....well, and a shower at least 3 times a week! {wink}