seems like a lot of people these days are having marriage problems or are just accepting the fact that marriage is boring and dull
i am happy to say, that we don't think that.
let me tell you why.
a pastor at our church said "if your not working on your marriage, your working on a divorce." that is so true! i think some people think that if it's meant to be it should be easy. that marriage shouldn't be work, it should just be amazing all the time with no effort. well, you don't have to be married too long to figure out that it takes work, a lot of work! esp when you put kids in the picture.
we work on our marriage everyday.
by being understanding (say when a mom has been up 3 times a night with a small babe for the past 3 months and might be a tad cranky, haha), if i am having a bad day Shawn started asking me "what can i do to make your day better?", we go on dates (which by the way, having kids is NOT an excuse to not date), we kiss...everyday, we talk, cuddle, go to bed together (most times), we send each other texts or call some days just to say i love you, shawn buys me flowers for no reason, ok, that happens a few times a year....ok, say atleast 2 times :), we tell each other we appreciate each other, we don't talk bad about each other to other people, we try and get away twice a year and have time just for us, with no distractions, and for the most part we are just nice to each other!
we went to an event over Christmas and my parents were talking about marriage. my mom said to remember that
""your spouse is a gift from God."
it made me think of one of my favorite gifts of all times that shawn got me. for our 5 year anniversary he got me my first michael kors purse. i was sooooo happy. i loved it. i admired it, i would just stare at it (ok, i know it's just a purse but as a mom it's so nice to have something nice for just yourself, haha) if it was raining when we went out, i would put it under my coat to protect it, when we got home, i'd put it in a safe spot so the kids couldn't get to it. i treated it that way bc let's face it, it's an expensive gift!
just think if we treated our spouse like he/she was the most amazing gift we have ever gotten? what if we always made our spouse feel important, and treated them like they are of the most expensive value, what if we protected them at all times, what if your spouse knew that they were your number one priority?
that would change your marriage.
no marriage is perfect, but if you continually work on it, it can be so fulfilling/amazing/wonderful
on a date to a late night movie
make date nights a priority.
they are so important.
how do you think you kept things going when you first met.
love this song....
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