one of our neighbors lost his wife to cancer last year. i really don't talk to him too much because he is always working, but i did take him some baked goods that week and dinner the following. i'm sure lots of other people did things for him and his kids right after his wife passed away.
so, here we are a year later and i wonder how many people are still doing something? prob not too many, if any.
the week of Christmas the boys and i delivered cupcakes to all the neighbors, and his face lit up when he saw the them {the boys and the cupcakes,haha}
when i went to pick up our bob evans carry-out the other night, i saw him sitting at the counter by himself and it gave me the idea to make him dinner. so, i'm planning on taking him a roast beef dinner this wednesday with all the fix'ins! go visit a neighbor, bake them cookies, take them a picture from your kids....do something nice :)
that can't seem to find the time to shower AND put make up on
the mom who drives thru dunkin' for her morning coffee in her big huge pink fluffy bathrobe and the mom that shows up to pick up my son at preschool in my slippers
the friend who now shows up at girls dinners in flats instead of heels
and can't spend an hour obsessing over what i should wear
why?
because i have three of the cutest kids ever that i'm the mom of....
so, i guess, if i'm THAT mom...
if I'm being honest, I went to bed after writing what is above! I couldn't figure out how to end that
Do I say if I'm THAT mom, it's ok...
because I have three little blessings that I get to spend my days with
{which should already be a given}
Or
because its only a season
{which is also true}
I was going to end it on a note like it was a good thing. But when I got into bed, I started to cry! It finally hit me...
I AM THAT MOM
I'm sure lots of mom's feel this way. You've either gained weight (which I literally can not wear my wedding ring without it cutting off my circulation, lol, funny but not funny), your wardrobe is not up to date, your hair has some major regrowth that needs touched up,or we just are so wrapped up in our kids we forget about ourselves.
I think part of being a great mom is getting time to ourselves!
When I've had no "breaks" from the kids I get fried and might be more short tempered with them and i am just frazzled!
Shawn asked me what he could do for me tonight and I said that i'd like to work out 3 times a week, and I want to spend my Christmas gift cards to update my wardrobe a bit this weekend :)
Schedule time for yourself to do something that makes you feel good about yourself! If its getting your nails done every week , do it and don't feel guilty about it! You deserve it! Maybe tell your husband you need 30 minutes a day to go to your room and eat a candy bar, lol, or read, or nap...do it!!!
make time to celebrate you and the great mom you are
P.S some days i still may not have time to put make-up on,I still may drive around townin my robe to get coffee from time to time,or we might wear our pj's all day, but I'm just going to try not to do that everyday! Haha
he is the craziest child ever. he makes me laugh every day
{and sometimes makes me want to pull my hair out}
i could go on and on about all the things he has done, but i'll just tell you about a few that stick out in my mind.
first of all,i'm pretty convinced this kid is going to be a famous athlete. he has always thrown things across the room from the time he was a year old.
when we would be shopping at target, he would literally throw his sippy cup at people....and hit them. he had pretty good aim, which is why people didn't seem to mind. they would say " i see you you have a joe montana on your hands" and were amazed at how good he could throw. he was so good at "hitting his target" that if he hypothetically wanted to take his socks and shoes off and fling a sock at someone across the resturant, it would end up landing on their shoulder. {that only happened once}
this is awful, but it was pretty hilarious!
we were out to eat for my sister's 21st birthday when hunter deided to pick up a salt shaker and throw it in the air. when he did it ended up breaking the light above the booth. the whole restaurant was staring at us {me and my wild child} and you could hear a pin drop. the owner came over and handed us a bill for $480. that was the most expensive dinner we had ever eaten!
{we ended up splitting the cost of the light with the owner}
hunter in action:
he would pour cereal out...
take all the wipes out....
polish his nails.....
finger paint with butter....
write on himself....
break windows by hitting a baseball...
get into my mascara
knocked over the 6 ft christmas tree in his room
{2 years ago}
spray random people with the hose
and those are just a few of the pics i could post.
haha.
would you believe that i never left him alone for more than 5 seconds?!
a lot can be accomplished in that amount of time.
but he is seriously so sweet, caring , a great son and an awesome big bro.
mothers day 2009
hunter and daddy
summer 2012
the big(est) bro
september 2012
a little ornery never hurt anyone...
but makes a mommy really ready for bedtime to arrive
seems like a lot of people these days are having marriage problems or are just accepting the fact that marriage is boring and dull
i am happy to say, that we don't think that.
let me tell you why.
a pastor at our church said "if your not working on your marriage, your working on a divorce." that is so true! i think some people think that if it's meant to be it should be easy. that marriage shouldn't be work, it should just be amazing all the time with no effort. well, you don't have to be married too long to figure out that it takes work, a lot of work! esp when you put kids in the picture.
we work on our marriage everyday.
by being understanding (say when a mom has been up 3 times a night with a small babe for the past 3 months and might be a tad cranky, haha), if i am having a bad day Shawn started asking me "what can i do to make your day better?", we go on dates (which by the way, having kids is NOT an excuse to not date), we kiss...everyday, we talk, cuddle, go to bed together (most times), we send each other texts or call some days just to say i love you, shawn buys me flowers for no reason, ok, that happens a few times a year....ok, say atleast 2 times :), we tell each other we appreciate each other, we don't talk bad about each other to other people, we try and get away twice a year and have time just for us, with no distractions, and for the most part we are just nice to each other!
we went to an event over Christmas and my parents were talking about marriage. my mom said to remember that
""your spouse is a gift from God."
it made me think of one of my favorite gifts of all times that shawn got me. for our 5 year anniversary he got me my first michael kors purse. i was sooooo happy. i loved it. i admired it, i would just stare at it (ok, i know it's just a purse but as a mom it's so nice to have something nice for just yourself, haha) if it was raining when we went out, i would put it under my coat to protect it, when we got home, i'd put it in a safe spot so the kids couldn't get to it. i treated it that way bc let's face it, it's an expensive gift!
just think if we treated our spouse like he/she was the most amazing gift we have ever gotten? what if we always made our spouse feel important, and treated them like they are of the most expensive value, what if we protected them at all times, what if your spouse knew that they were your number one priority?
that would change your marriage.
no marriage is perfect, but if you continually work on it, it can be so fulfilling/amazing/wonderful
on a date to a late night movie
make date nights a priority.
they are so important.
how do you think you kept things going when you first met.
